We had been talking on the site since my very first day on the site, when he messaged me with the tagline "would you consider me". I didn't fancy him in his photo's, but his email was short, sweet and very genuine sounding and I was curious to know what sort of people to expect so I messaged back. Soon enough, we were messaging almost every other day and not a couple of lines, but long friendly and good humoured messages. He had made it clear from message number 1 that I was the sort of girl he wanted to meet and that he had really liked what I said about myself in my profile. Time passed, and we were both very busy not to mention hundreds of miles apart due to him being in London and myself locked away at uni- so meeting wasn't really an option and we both decided we would wait until I returned to my Hometown for the holidays.
An 'arrangement' was only discussed after two weeks of messaging- P has never done anything like this before and that is something that even as a naive newbie I am sure of. The one thing he did tell me is that the word 'allowance' scares the hell out of him, and for me, for my first time and first guy, this is something I felt was ok- whether I am wrong about this, I am sure I shall find out in the not-too-distant future...
Just to fill you in- P is a city banker, single and lives alone. He seems to have a good network of old friends but is definitely 'new money' as they say.
Anyway, so we were supposed to meet last night (Saturday), but the snow brought the whole country to a stand still and though he had made reservations at a hotel for himself and also at the restaurant, he was snowed in and the trains stopped running- but he was keen and instead caught a train to my hometown this morning and took me for lunch at the restaurant we had planned on visiting last night.
Conversation flowed freely and the food was amazing, but throughout I was very aware of our age difference and the eyes on us! One thing that did strike me is the fact that I could really see him falling for me. He is by no means stupid, but the way he spoke about himself was slightly self deprecating and I felt he was a little in awe of me. He also told me I was a million times better in the flesh than my photos and I was so flattered and secretly very satisfied- I put up what I thought were my best photos!
Well in to the dinner as we sipped on a lovely bottle of red I had chosen for us, P told me that he was very comfortable, but was not a millionaire, then as he had in his messages, that he was very uncomfortable with the idea of an 'allowance', and I repeated to him what I had said in my messages also. 'As long as there is an agreement which means we are both happy (and it stays as tasteful as possible), an allowance is not something I feel is important to me right now'. He said that as neither of us have done this before we can figure it out together if we wanted to take things forward, but to know that he loves to spoil, loves to shop and feels rather than an allowance would like to give me more practical help- such as helping with my tuition fee's/rent etc.
P told me that he feels inadequate next to me as I dress and speak so well, and when I told him I was a personal shopper in my college years, said he loves the idea of me helping him pick out some clothes for him and smartening him up so he looks as good as myself and doesn't embarrass me which I thought was sweet, he doesn't dress badly he just doesn't dress up.
After our meal we took a taxi to the station where I dropped him off and then I continued in the taxi home. He took care of the fare when we got in and didn't say a word to me about it. I got home feeling good about our meeting, and a text from him telling me it had been 'the best afternoon in ages' made me smile. He told me at the end of the meal I was lovely and that he definitely wanted to see me again if I'd let him.
I'm unsure of where it is going, how to organise myself or how to talk the nitty gritty and really make sure the finance aspect is clear. We discussed my need for discretion in my home/university town at the meal and he said he respects this which I am pleased is out in the open because it is clear to me he does want a 'girlfriend experience'. He says he will email me over the next couple of days and talk about how we could make it work.
Hopefully my instinct about him is right because I understand that I have broken some general 'sugar' rules in his case. I guess time will tell...
Elle xXx
No comments:
Post a Comment